tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21770607.post117249268338454256..comments2023-10-16T14:20:48.005+00:00Comments on Natural Childhood: Reviews: The Body Never Lies The Lingering Effects of Cruel ParentingColette Mengileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11916675371783760158noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21770607.post-6138863978930680202010-06-22T00:07:21.064+00:002010-06-22T00:07:21.064+00:00Alice Miller was the inspiration of my life. It wa...Alice Miller was the inspiration of my life. It was not however -from any viewpoint an easy path to follow.<br /><br />http://joaquinfsousapoza.com/<br /><br />Dr. Joaquin Sousa-PozaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21770607.post-84099217519843337082007-07-09T11:53:00.000+00:002007-07-09T11:53:00.000+00:00Hi ChrisAnd thanks for your comment.:)I to have be...Hi Chris<BR/><BR/>And thanks for your comment.:)<BR/><BR/>I to have been working on this stuff for about 6 years now. I have had the same responce as you from my family and friends. I have lossed contact with many people whom wish to remain in denial of their true emotions and abuse suffered in childhood. I have been called mad, bad and my mother tried to have me sectioned. A month or so later she was telling me how sorry she was for the abuse I suffered at her hands. Now she is back to denial and I'm mad again. At one point the abuse was focused on my blog and I was telling lies about her. Huh she's never read this blog, and the material is sourced from trusted sources. Maybe one day I will write my own blog about my history, but it would be to dangerous for me right now, due to the abusive fallout that would be projected onto me.<BR/><BR/>Here's an except for a article by Alice Miller "It was my experience that it was precisely the opposite of forgiveness - namely, rebellion against mistreatment suffered, the recognition and condemnation of my parents' misleading opinions and actions, and the articulation of my own needs - that ultimately freed me from the past. In my childhood, these things had been ignored in the name of "a good upbringing," and I myself learned to ignore them for decades in order to be the "good" and "tolerant" child my parents wished me to be. But today I know: I always needed to expose and fight against opinions and attitudes that I considered destructive of life wherever I encountered them, and not to tolerate them. But I could only do this effectively once I had felt and experienced what was inflicted on me earlier. By preventing me from feeling the pain, the moral religious injunction to forgive did nothing but hinder this process."<BR/><BR/>Full article here:<BR/>Concerning Foregiveness: The Liberating Experience of Painful Truth<BR/>http://www.alice-miller.com/articles_en.php?lang=en&nid=48&grp=11<BR/><BR/>Wishing you all the best in your healing from childhood trauma, and writing the letter from your parents sounds emotionally healthy to me, but they may never change, so work on yourself and leave them to their denial. <BR/><BR/>I feel I'm really getting there now and have never felt such happiness as I can now. There are still hard times but I can deal with my issues in emotionally honest way's. <BR/><BR/>I would love to hear how things progress for you.<BR/><BR/>Best wishesColette Mengileshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17515003847250608165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21770607.post-75110868733459857512007-07-09T02:39:00.000+00:002007-07-09T02:39:00.000+00:00I appreciate finding this blog. I am currently wor...I appreciate finding this blog. I am currently working through this stuff for myself with a therapist and feel vindicated particularly on the 4th commandment and the issue of forgiveness. I cannot forgive and I have articulated my concerns to my parents and they won't acknowledge my experience, they deny it and won't even consider how it felt for me even if I had imagined it all. However their very reaction lends truth to the events. I found it useful to write a letter to myself from them, apologising and seeking ways to make reparation.<BR/>So thank you.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07868698186605116337noreply@blogger.com